Sometimes, my own words aren’t enough, and I know I need a perspective I can’t drum up on my own. I want to understand God’s ways, but I can’t. Praying scripture helps.
Below you will find 5 Bible passages that pertain to grief and sorrow. I encourage you to read each one, and then pray the prayers below, (or your own prayers). God wants us to come to him in our grief. He would rather we come to him, even if we are angry, than to run from him. He made us for relationship with him – in the good and bad.
Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief. Psalm 31:9 (NIV)
God, I don’t even understand your ways right now. I don’t get why this happened and I can’t see where your mercy is in all of this. You say you are merciful and show compassion – please help me to see it. I am worn out with grief, and I can’t stop crying.
Yet it was our grief he bore, our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, for his own sins! 5 But he was wounded and bruised for our sins. He was beaten that we might have peace; he was lashed—and we were healed! 6 We—every one of us—have strayed away like sheep! We, who left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet God laid on him the guilt and sins of every one of us! Isaiah 53:4-6 (TLB) (An Old Testament prophesy about Jesus)
Jesus, the Bible says you were weighed down by my sorrow; and carried my grief. It says that you were wounded, beaten, and lashed for my healing. Yet, it is so easy for me to run from you rather than to you, like a frightened lamb. Forgive me. Give me the ability to run to you, to accept all you’ve done, and stop trying to carry this immense weight of grief on my own.
A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out.
In faithfulness he will bring forth justice;… Isaiah 42:3 (NIV)
God, I feel so bruised and broken inside. I feel like I can barely make it sometimes, and can’t see how things will ever be right again. Please help me. Please strengthen me. Please take this mess and turn it around. I need you.
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is upon me, for the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to comfort the brokenhearted and to proclaim that captives will be released and prisoners will be freed. 2 He has sent me to tell those who mourn that the time of the Lord’s favor has come, and with it, the day of God’s anger against their enemies. 3 To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair.
In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory. 4 They will rebuild the ancient ruins, repairing cities destroyed long ago.
They will revive them, though they have been deserted for many generations. Isaiah 61:1-4 (NLT) (An Old Testament Prophesy about Jesus)
Jesus, the Bible says you came to bring good news. I sure could use some good news right now. It says you came to comfort the brokenhearted. My heart is so busted up I can barely breath – please comfort me. In my grief and sadness, I need to know that you want to give me favor, that you care. Please take this pain and turn it around. I need to once again see beauty, rather than such sadness. I want to be able to be able to speak of the wonderful things you have done, instead of feeling this constant despair. Strengthen me like a mighty oak tree for your honor. Please rebuild my life and family. Rebuild what has been destroyed. Revive my life, even though I currently feel like one whose been deserted.
The young women will dance for joy, and the men—old and young—will join in the celebration. I will turn their mourning into joy. I will comfort them and exchange their sorrow for rejoicing. Jeremiah 31:13 (NLT) (Written when Israel was in slavery because of their sin. God wanted them to remember his promises; that he would one day return them to their land in freedom.)
God, right now, there is no way I could dance or celebrate – I’m too sad. I can’t even see a day ahead where I will once again be happy. Would you please, in your time, do for me what I’m unable to do for myself? Would you please give me your joy instead of such grief? Would you please comfort my heart and mind? Please, one day, would you allow me to be able to celebrate again? Please help me to trust you to do this. To make me whole. I don’t see how it can happen. I so desperately need your help.
God is above all of us, but amazingly longs for us to talk to him. To cry out to him. To unburden ourselves to him. He wants us to know him. That’s why he sent Jesus. Prayer doesn’t have to be flowery, or fancy. It just needs to be sincere, and from the heart.
And in talking to God, he wants us to believe he will hear and answer. If you aren’t certain of that – tell him so. Ask him to work, even if you aren’t certain he exists or cares. I don’t believe he’s offended by our honesty. Besides, it gives him the opportunity to show himself!
With love and prayers,
p.s. Once again, if this series has been a struggle and you want someone to talk or pray with, I’m a pretty good listener. I would gladly pray as well. The form below is for your confidentiality.