A Remedy for Jealousy

It's so easy to forget God wants us to compare ourselves with no one, but to see ourselves and our gifts through His eyes alone (2)

My blogging journey has been anything but easy. I love to write and love all I’m learning, but my older years haven’t made it easy for me to learn new tricks and so gaining followers has been an uphill climb. Recently, as I perused my social media feeds, my eyes locked onto an Instagram post from a fellow blogger who was sharing a recent blessing from a follower. She’s young and talented and frankly God wanted her to know she had encouraged someone along their journey. Instantly I found myself struggling with jealousy because of God’s blessing and encouragement. Fortunately, God’s blessing of conviction followed on the heals of my temptation. “Robin, you should be glad for her. You know how hard it can sometimes be to write!”

Had not God’s Spirit invaded my thoughts in that moment, jealousy could have poisoned my heart and mind. These days, it would be easy to blame social media for my emotions, but I can’t. Jealousy has been around since the fall – remember Cain and Abel?

Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.

Then the Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field. While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.

Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?”

“I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?”

What should Cain have avoided, and what should we avoid to quell jealousy?

  • In pride, Cain elevated his own way over God’s, producing anger at not getting what he felt entitled to receive.
  • Cain rejected God’s admonition to control his hurt pride and anger, and instead fed his sense of entitlement.
  • Cain gave full vent to his anger, adding to it deceit and murder.
  • Instead of confessing his sin when confronted, he brushed it off, hardening his heart further.
If left unchecked jealousy damages us within so that we no longer value relationships with God and man as God intended. Click To Tweet

My thoughts that day weren’t any where near murderous, and most of us will never go that far. But left unchecked, jealousy can bear such fruit as bitterness, anger, and hatred. Scripture gives us strong warnings about allowing such emotions to take control:

Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. Hebrews 12:15 (NLT)

“You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.’ But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment [a necessity to stand before God’s court]! Matthew 5:22 (NLT)

Anyone who hates another brother or sister is really a murderer at heart. And you know that murderers don’t have eternal life within them. 1 John 3:15 (NLT)

If left unchecked jealousy damages us within so that we no longer value relationships with God and man as God intended
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What are our alternatives?

  • Remember God has a unique plan for us that won’t look like anyone else’s plan. When God’s plan for the moment seems as though he’s comparing us to someone else, remember He’s not.
It's so easy to forget God wants us to compare ourselves with no one, but to see ourselves and our gifts through His eyes alone. Click To Tweet
  • When God advises us to make a different choice, listen – He’s only warning us for our good. God sees the outcome as well as our current circumstances. Listen well.
  • We are called to take control of our emotions rather than allowing our emotions to control us.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

2 Corinthians 10:5

Above all, God longs for us to experience the full measure of gifts found in relationship with both him and our fellow man. Jealousy destroys relationship. Get rid of it quickly!

Lord, thank you for dealing with my thoughts quickly. Thank you for strengthening me to listen and yield to your tender admonitions rather than giving into jealousy. Help us to see the dangers of allowing jealousy full sway, and choose your way instead. In Jesus’ name, amen.

With love,

Robin <3

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6 thoughts on “A Remedy for Jealousy

  1. Thanks Robin, funny how jealousy doesn’t get a lot of press, but is such a common reaction/emotion. Thanks, too, for another thoughtful piece. God bless you!

    1. It’s so true – so common to all of us. Thank you as well my friend for taking the time to comment and encourage. It means a lot. Love you.

  2. Amen Robin. I definitely relate to your original statement of blogging being difficult. I love to write as well but for me it is hard because I don’t have a lot of time. So much so, that I don’t have time to read others blogs nearly as much as I would like to. Each time I do, I know that I benefit and grow spiritually. At first, I too had some of the same thoughts of wanting to get my blog out there and upset that I wasn’t getting views BUT I quickly was reminded that I am doing this to glorify Him and my intentions had to prove that to be so. If ONE person is touched, then I have accomplished my goal. Like I said, when I read others blogs, like yours, I am touched and I remind myself that it is the same for mine. I have a really good friend that showed no interest when I first started and it really hurt my feelings – not because I wanted to minister to her but because I needed her encouragement. It sat really hard on my heart and for a few days I pouted about it. I learned there too that just not everyone out there enjoys articles, blogs, what we have to say about this or that, etc. And just the same, she and I have our differences in other areas that are okay – so this one has to be accepted as well. Sorry I shared this long response but it was nice to read that someone has struggled with the ‘newness’ of blogging as well as myself. Your verses are perfect reminders that we are to strive to be Christ-like (comparing to no one else ;)) and grow in the fruits that resemble Him. Keep writing! God bless!

    1. Thank you so so much for conversing with me. It helps to hear others struggle with the same things as I do. The Lord has to remind me as well that one reading and getting what God wants from it is all that matters. I’ve even been reminded too that my obedience may at times be all that matters to God. I admit that’s hard, but I do so want a right heart before Daddy. Your response was refreshing and encouraging, so thank you again. God bless!

      1. Yes, that is all I want as well. To be obedient and make t to heaven … and hopefully I help someone else get there on my way ☺️ It is encouraging to see common struggles between us as believers, women, and bloggers!

      2. So true. It helps to know we aren’t alone, and that our struggles are common. It also greatly encourages me that God has made a better way while we are on this earth – and given us all we need for freedom now. So glad we don’t need to wait for heaven to experience his freedom and to assist others in finding him. Glad we’re in this journey together. God bless and strengthen you as you continue to tell others. 💗

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