Gary and I will be married 5 years this Fall. We’d both been married before – successful, long-lived marriages of over 25 years each. We’d both learned a thing or two about marriage before we wed.
But like all couples, we’ve had our rough moments since the wedding day.
We are a cross-cultural marriage, Gary having lived in the mountain regions of Kentucky and West Virginia much of his first marriage, where he and his first wife spent their lives together in ministry. I grew up in the Midwestern suburbs, and spent several years of my first marriage traveling the world with my first husband’s job.
Gary a country boy at heart, and I a city girl by experience.
He loves to dress up jeans and a t-shirt with his favorite baseball cap; and I love to wear jeans with a nice blouse, jewelry and sometimes a hat.
But we both love Jesus, knowing he’d brought us together – looking forward to the day we’d serve him side by side. We’d both lived through loving and being loved by a spouse no matter the cost. For each of us, the cost was watching our spouses become ill and die. We’d both persevered watching our sons struggle with the death of their other parent.
We’ve both weathered and grown through some pretty harsh life experiences. The experiences we share, are also the experiences that we don’t share – each so similar, yet so different.
Blending our cultures and experiences hasn’t always been easy, and for the first year was especially difficult. So many misunderstandings between 5 people, and so many new ways of doing things. I’m so glad we were reminded before we married, that all couples, no matter what, go through a time of getting used to the new norm.
As I remember those early days, I revel in the time we now share:
The boys are now out of the home – grown and choosing their own way. We celebrate their adulthood, and enjoy this new season of life.
Gary and I for the first time in our marriage are alone in the house – and are enjoying it immensely! We cherish this time together!
I’m so glad we waited for this time, and didn’t give up when things were difficult! The difficulties we forged through together have only made this time sweeter!
For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
2 A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
6 A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
8 A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.
9 What do people really get for all their hard work? 10 I have seen the burden God has placed on us all. 11 Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-11 (NLT) (emphasis mine)
Are you currently in a difficult season, my friend? Unable to see the end from the beginning? If your life has been given over to Christ’s lead, then trust and wait. He never fails to keep a promise.
What is today won’t be forever.
God will make all things beautiful, in their time. He promises.
While you are waiting through this season, do you have a support system of godly people to uphold and encourage you? Attending a local church where Jesus is worshiped, and families are made, is so critical to making it through all seasons!
Let me know if I can pray for you.
With love and prayers,